Beauty

I would like to first ask some questions and then try and answer them. Whatever I type is my view.

What is beauty? Who is beautiful and who is ugly? How do you judge beauty? Is beauty of another dependent on your mood?

I feel that beauty is not something just physical at all, but something more deep, it is something that is more mental and is a feeling of ones state. If you are lost don’t worry that’s just what I wanted.

Beauty for me is NOT just being fair skinned, skin without any pimples or/and dark marks, a beautiful shaped body with clean and clear cuts, a sexy ass or even an attractive smile with 32 sparkling white teeth. Then what is it. For me it is what one sees inside the mind and the heart of the other that is more important. The kindness, the braveness, the respect that u get from the other, the brilliance of the mind of the other. This is what I mean by my first line of this paragraph. I say this because I believe that when people marry just because of there partner being the physically beautiful (I hope u understand the meaning of that know) there marriage never lasts long. Marriages last long more due to the inner beauty. This is because when you start staying together the physical beauty is not what u have to live with it is the inner make up that u have to live with. That is the way in which u are treated. I say this though I am only 20 years old now because of my parents. In fact my dad tells me sometimes that if he was in my mother’s shoes he would have torn his hair and divorced her long time back, but they are married for 31 years now. Why? I shall leave it to u to answer this.

I feel that when it comes to judgment of beauty it is difficult to comment on it. I feel that u judge ones beauty not by first encounter but only after some encounters. Off course there are exceptions and I must admit that one of my friends is an exception to this. In fact for me to judge her to be beautiful and interesting she just had to stand up on the stage and introduce herself. She did not even have to talk to me face to face. This off course is one reason for me to have said the first line of this paragraph.

What truly makes judgment difficult is to be able to know that ‘everybody is different and that due to this difference it is okay if I find someone beautiful who everybody else hates and finds “UGLY” ’. Also to make sure that the other person realizes that u find him/her beautiful because of that difference. I feel that this is the first step in judging beauty. It is due to this that when I meet people I never go with a pre-determined mind that he/she is like this. This is because first impression is usually wrong. I only start judging people once we interacted and understood each others level of interaction. Off course I must say that it is hard not to judge people at first sight and I feel that it is equally hard if not more to keep at a relationship when everyone around u hates and dislikes your partner. When one manages to practice these one attains tremendous strength and then one is not a door-mat and begins to choose who he or she wants to relate to. I also feel that what makes these difficult is because we tend to obey our mind that is not purely our thought, but which is adulterated by others thought and not our heart which is purely our own thought. I believe that we tend to judge people by our minds that are adulterated by what others have said and not our heart. Once we begin using our heart there is no way we can judge a person before the first encounter.

There are other features that influence your judgment of beauty. For example your temperament at that point in time, your mood, your likes and dislikes. Even the characteristics of the person make a difference. I say these because when you are angry you do not think rationally and thus you may not judge the person correctly.

I feel that ones mood does make a difference because depending on your mood the process by which you think and judge changes. Your experience and your thinking are coloured. For example when I finished my 12th ISC English paper I felt that I had done terrible and I had a faint feeling that I may even fail. However, when I got my results my marks were in the late seventies. What happened??? Was my judgment wrong? No. Due to the pressure of the exams and other things my thinking was coloured. I didn’t see all the faces of the paper and hence my decision was coloured and NOT wrong.

I would like to end by just reminding you about the story of the ugly duckling and how it grows and finally when it sees its reflection in the water it sees a beautiful full grown swan.
Remember:
Nothing in life is constant except for change.

Laws and rules

I was walking down a road and I found that every time the signal changed colours there would be those few people who would break the signal. Without bothering about there life or others life. Why is it that we humans love breaking laws, even if it means we put ourselves and/or our loved ones in trouble? We all just love doing it. I think after doing so one gets some sort of satisfaction and that satisfaction is what drives one to do it again and again.

I ofcourse picked up signal breaking but it could be anything right from breaking traffic rules, stealing murdering, even braking rules in the language. I bet that in all of my blogs I have broken many rules of the English language.

I must say though that there are a few people who know that they are braking a law, but don’t care. There are the second types who break the law but do not agree to having broken any law. I feel that the second types of people are even more dangerous.

The point that I am trying to make is that when we break laws and rules do we actually break them intentionally or unintentionally. I feel that most laws are broken intentionally to prove a point. It could also be to see if one can break a law and escape.

Ofcourse then there is the famous old question, are law breakers born as law breakers or do they become law breakers. If any of you have read Charles Dickensen's "Great Expectations" I feel that it truly raises this question and I feel that he even tries to answer it through Pip's benefactor the convict.

A story on excellence.

This story is from a reader digest article. However I will not take the story word to word but will give you the essence of the story.

The story starts with a boy talking about how his father is part of an inspection committee, who sees to it that the unbreakable mugs that are manufactured are truly unbreakable or not. On many occasions his father would take him to the factory and make him sit in his cabin.

His father would take a sample and smash on the floor. Then check it for small cracks. The Son hated to go to the factory and he thought it a very low grade job and hence was always ashamed of his father job.

Soon time past and he gets a job of a salesman. He goes around trying to sell things. He does well and he goes on and then finally he gets a promotion and a raise in his salary. Time progress and he goes on getting promotions after promotions and is now taking back home a good fat salary.

One fine day his boss calls him into his cabin. He is excited because he had just finished a product. Hence he could feel that promotion coming up again. When he went in his boss asked him how much he was getting paid and then took a calculator multiplied that amount by three and made a check for that amount. While giving the check the boss told him that he need not come to the office from the very next day and he was to clear his table and leave that very day.

He was shocked. He didn’t know what to say. He took his check and left to his cabin and started packing up.

He was hurt and sad. So he thought of his dad and reached his dads cabin. It was the same old cabin nothing had changed. His dad did the same old tests. When he walked in his dad greeted him and asked what happened why the sad look??

After relating what happened his dad asked him "son were you ever happy or pleased with your work just before submitting it"?? The son replied with a "No". The father then smiled and said "son if you were not happy with your work then how can others appreciate it. Your boss kept you till the time you kept his clients happy, the moment they were dissatisfied he doesn't earn his salary. So he is not going to stop buying those fancy diamond necklaces for his wife so he sacks you. Look at this mug (he puts the mug under the microscope) flawless and without any cracks. This mug is supposed to be unbreakable (after stating this he smashes it on the floor and then places it under the microscope). Now watch can you see the crack. If we were to sell these mugs sure enough they would sell, but the day that anyone finds the crack they will stop buying it."

"Son I always wanted to start something new, but I could not because I had a family depending on me. You do not have one go and start something new." The son then takes that mug and leaves to start his own marketing company, but he never forgets the mug so it stays right on his desk every single day.

The story ends her, but I would like to say that in today’s world everybody will get away with short cuts and short cuts will bring you big money in small time, but those that do not take these short cuts have the better edge over those who do. Yes they do not make big money in small time, but they last longer...................

Discipline

What is discipline? What is it to be disciplined?Who is disciplined? These questions are always in my mind as I see what all happens at college as a student. Does discipline mean that you have to enter your class room on time, sit properly in class, wish your teachers every time you see them. I doubt whether this is so because if that is so then every single person is disciplined and I doubt whether that is actually possible in real life. I feel that discipline is not just that but is something even more deeper. I think it is a way of thinking of doing things and your approach to them. For example one might come to class on time. So he is considered disciplined. Not necessarily because he might be coming in class because if he doesn't he does not get his attendance. Hence he falls short of attendance and cannot right his exam (off course there is a way if he pays that is a br....). Hence he is coming on time because of attendance. Thus he is not disciplined according to me. This is because you are being disciplined because you are getting something in return. Discipline has to come from inside. You will say that is a famous old cleache. So what does it mean???? I think that it means that you do something for the sake of doing it and not for any other thing. That means that I go to class on time because I want to and there is no other reason behind doing it.

Does being disciplined mean that that I am excellent or reached excellence? The question can also be the other way around. I don't know which one is the right way. Any comments!!!!

Before trying to answer that question I would like to explore what is excellence? I feel that like discipline it is a way of thinking and more than thinking they way you perform your job. I feel that the true test of excellence cannot be done from outside it can only be done from within. I say this because as soon as you know that somebody is going to check your work, you make sure every single thing is perfect. However, the moment there is no person to check does your work fail to be as impressive as the previous one??

My dad always told me every time that we fixed something at home, Khirad the true test of excellence is when you put in your best in every aspect of your work even if it is not to be seen or even appreciated by the others. Then off course to prove this he would relate the story of how he made sure the inside of his audio amplifier was designed to such perfection that if the outer cover was removed it still could be placed as a show piece in the show case. There was no need for this extra effort because nobody (except the service men) was going to open it up and look inside in its entire working life. Has my dad reached excellence?? I think so. Why I say I think so is because you reach excellence when you put in every single thing into it. Then that is the best product that you have made and then and only then have you reached excellence and I don't know whether dad did put in everything.

Thus I feel that excellence is when you put in your best. It is not comparable. You cannot compare it with another person. This is because every individual has his or her own limits and due to these limits it is not fair to compare two people. However, on the other hand excellence is not a destination which once you have reached it that's it. It is not bound. You can go on and on each time challenging yourself and increasing the level of your excellence.

I thought of concluding with a story from a reader's digest issue called " The cracked Mug". However, that will be with my next blog.

Animals do they have mental powers

I thought of this after remebering an incident that took place many years back. My dad goes for a course in meditation and during that time you do not even speak to anybody. You have to be absolutely silient. Well so one day when sitting in meditation my dad got a signal saying sophie has been killed. Note Sophie is our pet dog. later on he got a signal sophie is not dead but sophie is hurt. When he finished his meditation he called up home and asked my sister what had happened and it so happened that on that very day while crossing the road she was hit by a scooter. Did my doggie actually reach out to my dad when the two of them were a couple of thousands of kilometers apart?? Do animals actually have intelligence. I have begun to believe so. Confused. Well let me tell you one more thing. Well before sophie we had a dog called Randy. She was very smart. She would follow us everywhere we went. Infact there was even a time when my cousin sis and aunt were walking and a stranger approached and touched my aunt. The very next instant randy was after him. She made sure she scared the shit out of that man. Well i am deviating towards dogs. But in general animals do have intelligence and they also have intuition something that we humans have ignored. The least number of deaths in the tsunami in december 2004 were animals. Why because they had already had the intuition that somthing is wrong get out. So they had already run away fronm home and gone far away. Off course here i mean land animals. At certain times i feel that there is no real difference between man and animals intelligence. They have the same emotions as we do. Infact i think they are one step ahead of us because they trry and discover new things but they do not go too deep. On the other hand qwe humans go so deep that we turn up using it in a distructive way. For example the whole process of finding out what is responsible for our charecteristics and then the study of DNA and RNA. that now i can actually manupulate my childs interest, his eye colour and everything before he is born. Technology has made it possible to know the sex of the baby before it is even born. The whole world now is blaming each other of having nuclear weopons. Such a desructive thing made from the discovery of fussion and fission.

I trully wonder know who is the more learned one the animals or us??? we go on making things to destroy o0ur own very existance. Do animals actually know what we are learning and they are aware of the consiquence and hence do not go further into it ??

Any comments or answer are welcome

Does science explain everything

I always wonder whether science will ever be able to explain every single thing in life. I say this because as we go over the past years science has been able to explain some fantastic things. Like the theory of relativity or the chaos theory, The simple but yet powerful 3 laws of Newton or for that matter anything. As humans we always have the thirst for knowledge. Why things occur the way they do or how do they occur the way they do. So on and so forth.
Things have been proven and the answers found, But does science know the truth? Lost?? Let me give an example. How does one know that the theory of relativity actually is true or not. For example even today there are new things discovered about the behavior of animals. So is there something that Einstein did not take into account for in his theory?? I am not saying it is wrong or correct I am doubting the completeness of the theory. I will end with a few question and do answer them. Is there a way of knowing whether your theory is complete or not? Will science ever be able to explain every single thing that takes place in life? Will we be able to solve the remaining mysteries of the human Brain? Is there an end to discovery? Or rather will there be a day when scientists can say we know why everything works and how it works?